May 2020

Page A2 MAY 2020 FUNERAL HOME & CEMETERY NEWS S ec t i on A Published Monthly by: Nomis Publications, Inc. PO Box 5159, Youngstown, OH 44514 1-800-321-7479 FAX 1-800-321-9040 www.nomispublications.com info@nomispublications.com Subscription: United States $25.00 - Canada/Mexico $50.00 Circulation 21,000 per issue. Overseas rates available. Deadline for Press Releases: 5th of the Previous month. Advertising: Display Ad rates sent upon request. Classified and Shipping Directory rates published in each issue. All advertising must be received by the 5th of the previous month. Due to the vast amount of sources, the publisher is not responsible for the content of any news articles or advertisements. Nor is the publisher responsible for any loss of revenue by failure to insert an advertisement. 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B17 Shipping Directory.................................................................................. B14 Calendar of Events................................................................................... B2 Association News................................................................................... A36 Deaths.................................................................................................... A42 Educational News................................................................................... A38 Suppliers News. ....................................................................................... B1 COLUMNS Aftercare by Linda Findlay........................................................................ A8 Embalming Tips & Tools by Matt Black................................................... A16 Facebook Made Easy by Jason Troyer PhD.......................................... A10 The Foundations of Success for Funeral Directors by Mark Bowser..... A18 HearseHub by Mike Jamar....................................................................... B6 Let’s Chat by Kristan Dean....................................................................... A2 Memoires des choix des Jacque by Kate Frediani-Gorman................... A36 Museum Corner...................................................................................... A38 Observations by Steven Palmer............................................................. A12 OSHA Compliance by Glenn Lafitte....................................................... A14 There’s More to It...Advance Funeral Planning by Chris Kuhnen. ........... A6 Random Musings by Nancy Weil.............................................................. A4 Rest In Peace Mr President by Todd Van Beck...................................... A26 Working With Widowers by Fred Colby and Herb Knoll ........................ A20 NOTICE The FUNERAL HOME AND CEMETERY NEWS is now sent in two parts. Section A, which includes pages A1-A44 and Section B, which contains the Classified Advertising and consists of pages B1-B24. If you do not receive both sections please call 1-800-321-7479 or email info@nomispublications.com. FUNERAL HOME & CEMETERY NEWS Online Directories US & International Funeral Homes • Supply Companies Cemeteries • Pet Memorialization Companies Trade Associations • Plus Much More... www.nomispublications.com Like Us On Federal Trade Commission extends Comment Deadline for Funeral Rule Review to June 15 By Kristan Dean Let’s Chat Is there any way to wrap our hearts and heads around how different, difficult and painful it is and will be to grieve while COVID-19 is keeping us separate and apart? Every part of me screams no , I cannot imagine it. COVID-19 will bring expo- nentially more pain to people’s grief than almost anything this country and world have ever seen. You know this. As I write this, you are plan- ning and directing funeral and graveside ser- vices in ways that you have never done before. Creating ways to help people comfort one an- other that align with “stay at home” and “at least 6 feet apart.” The saddest part is that each new question and challenge that COVID-19 brings to you is another way that COVID-19 adds more pain and sadness to grief. In the first days of April our government predicts cases will spike soon and warns that these may be our country’s saddest times be- cause deaths are going to spike too. Almost ev- ery state is under the mandate to stay at home. People on the frontlines of healthcare need more PPEs and ventilators. The number of hotspots continue to rise. Trillions of dollars are rolling out in hopes that they will prevent a recession or worse and unemployment contin- ues to rise. Each of these combine to bring our country, communities, families and people an immeasurable amount of stress. You know that grief brings a pain that can feel like your heart is physically breaking in the best of times. In these times, grief also comes with the addition of fear, the economy, and isolation. Can you imagine what not being able to com- fort your mom, hold her hand, or be with her heart aches because every person grieving during social distanc- ing will have the additional pain COVID-19 inflicts, even when life gets back to normal. Outreach, grief support, and aftercare have always been some of the most important services that you give to your families and community. They are ex- In 2000 Kristan Dean began working with her family to bring Merry Christmas From Heaven ® to all who need the gifts’ message of Comfort, Love, and Faith. Today she is the Vice President of Marketing and one of the primary mem- bers of her family’s Bereavement Ministry.   Thanks, in great part, to the thousands of funeral directors and retailers nationwide who make Merry Christmas From Heaven ® a part of their communities, countless numbers of families reach out to their family every year. Their bereave- ment ministry helps families realize that those in Heaven live forever in our hearts. Their love is with us always.    Prior to Mooney TunCo, Inc. Kristan worked with com- panies nationwide helping them build revenues by creating greater sales opportunities through the use of sales intelli- gence and marketing alignment. HAVE YOU SEEN THESE CHILDREN? The photographs below have been provided by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Please help locate these children by posting in your lobby, office, on your bulletin board, etc. Anyone with information should immediately contact the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children at 1-800-843-5678 or www.missingkids.com JEDI ABRAHAMIAN Circumstances: Jedi may still be in the local area. He may be in the company of an adult male. Jedi may go by the alias name Vaughn. Missing Since: 4/17/2019 Missing From: Cedartown, GA Date of Birth: 4/14/2004 Age Now: 16 Yrs Sex: Male Race: White Hair: Black Eyes: Brown Height: 5’5” Weight: 147 lbs macaria cux chan Circumstances: Macaria was last seen on February 23, 2019. Shemay be in the company of an adult male. They may still be in the local area or they may travel toVirginia or Mexico. Macaria may use the alias last name Mendez Alonzo. Missing Since: 2/23/2019 Missing From: El Monte, CA Date of Birth: 3/17/2003 Age Now: 17 Yrs Sex: Female Race: Hispanic Hair: Black Eyes: Brown Height: 5’2” Weight: 130 lbs tyzia herbert Circumstances: Tyzia may be in the local area of Wichita, Kansas. She has her ears and nose pierced. Tyzia may go by the nickname Tryzia Missing Since: 4/14/2019 Missing From: Newton, KS Date of Birth: 1/9/2003 Age Now: 17 Yrs Sex: Female Race: Black Hair: Black Eyes: Brown Height: 5’6” Weight: 150 lbs as she dies in the hospital feels like? I pray this is impossible for you. Though a part of me knows that you may be walking with this grief yourself and that I cannot fathom how many of you are helping families that know the stress of this pain intimately. When this is published, Mother’s Day will be approaching. I pray this means there are no new COVID-19 cases or deaths and the surge never happened. All of me wants to write like that is true and understands that it may not be. My ponentially more important now and at any other time I might beg you to please do more. Not this time. Right now, I feel like you are already doing way more with far less than you have in almost any other time. This time I am asking: who is support- ing you? Are you connecting with pro- fessionals and people that are able to give you emotional support and hands that can help? As much as you want to help the families and communities you serve please take special care of yourself. No one is immune to the stress and pain grief can bring. Please be kind to yourself, check in, ask yourself: am I ok? Fit “take care of me” time into your day. If you can’t, please ask yourself, what would I do, if someone I love said I have no time to take care of me, too many people need me? Then do that for yourself. If you are in one of the lucky places on this planet that COVID-19 is spar- ing and your families and community are mostly ok please think about who you can reach out to. Say hi, listen to what is said and not said, and provide concrete ways to help. To all of you that have aftercare tools and ways that bring families and communities to- gether (during social distancing or af- ter), or if you have ideas or events you are planning that will make grieving easier, please reach out and share them with everyone that you can. WASHINGTON,DC— The Federal Trade Commis- sion is extending by sixty days the deadline to submit comments as part of the agency’s review of its Funeral Rule. The deadline was originally April 14, 2020; it is now June 15, 2020. The FTC announced in February that it would accept comments on a wide range of is- sues related to the Funeral Rule. In response to requests from potential commenters for an extension due to the coronavirus pandemic, the FTC will soon publish a notice in the Fed- eral Register announcing the comment dead- line extension. The Commission vote to approve the Federal Register notice was 5-0. The notice will be published in the Federal Register. Visit https:// www.ftc.gov/policy/federal-register-notices/16- cfr-part-453-trade-regulation-rule-funeral- industry-practices?utm_source=govdelivery to learn more. Instructions for filing comments appear in the notice. Comments will be posted on www.regulations.gov .